I looked up this word the other day in the dictionary. It basically says that it is someone you are fond of and enjoy talking with them. I value friendship to the highest level. I make it appoint to hang out with my friends at least once every two weeks. The ones that live far away I write by snail mail once a month. How nice it is not to receive a bill or another credit card application.
So what happens when you are the better friend? When you are the one that is always calling or inviting and that person just blows you off. Deep down you may be thinking that there is something wrong with you. Well, nothing is wrong with you. Everyone becomes caught up in their life. I do not take it personally and you shouldn’t either.
Ask yourself these 5 little questions.
1. Are you the one that always calls?
2. Do you leave comments on their sites and they never comment back?
3. Do they only talk to you when they need something?
4. Have they stood you up when you had plans?
5. Do they owe you money?
If you answered yes to 3 of these questions I am sorry to say but they are not your friend. Personally I think that they are just keeping you at arms distance just in case. They may need something from you or they just don’t know how to be a friend. Please do not point out their faults after all you are the better friend. If you do it is OK too.
Tags: bad friend, friendship, life, mail, opinion, society, thoughts, writing
March 24, 2008 at 12:18 am |
wow, a thoughtful post… thanks for sharing…
March 24, 2008 at 12:53 am |
If the answers to most of the above questions are “yes” it can also indicate that a once precious friendship has simply run its course because each partner in the friendship has changed.
We are all changing minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour, day-by-day, year-by- year, so we are not quite the same person we were a year ago.
So it’s not surprising that most friendships eventually wither.
March 25, 2008 at 6:30 am |
hi! thanks for dropping by my li’l place on the web…
i quite agree with you about not taking it personally when your friends get caught up with their lives. no matter how deeply involved we are with our friends, our friends do have a life separate from us.